Seasons Greetings!!!

 

I just wanted to let everyone know that Hell once again has frozen over.  You are all probably wondering what the heck is this chick talking about.  Well I'm going to tell you.  My soon-to-be ex-husband Rick has finally seen the light when it comes to our "special needs" child, Christian.  The best way to explain it is to start from the beginning.  So here goes....As you are aware of  Rick and I have been separated since June of 2006 and since that time he has refused to admit that Christian isn't like every child out there and that I knew what I was talking about.  Anything and everything that he could do to destroy any progress I made with Christian as far as his behavior and schooling he would do.  To give you a little background on Christian, he had been in foster care since he was 2 and came to be with us when he was 5.  We adopted him when he was 7.  He soon will be 11.  He has ADHD and Reactive Attachment Disorder.  He is a compulsive liar and will argue with anybody about anything whether he is right or not.  Can be very stressful.  (See grey hair around my temples LOL)  The attachment disorder is hard to swallow sometimes because I know in my heart that if a total stranger walked up to Christian and promised him the world he would go and not look back.  He will go with whoever has the best or easiest deal for him.  That is why he desperately wanted to go live with his father.  He didn't have any responsibilites of any kind, he knew his dad wouldn't make him do his homework or anything for that matter.  Rick played on this to no end and then one day I decided to let him go.  I knew that things would never get better until Rick had to deal with it 24/7.  I was tired of fighting with him and Christian and I knew it would be only a matter of months before the honeymoon period wore off with Christian and Rick would see that I had been telling him the truth all this time.  It was one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make and on top of it my family accused me of giving up all my children for the man I am with.  Everyone has an opinion but until they walk a mile in my shoes they shouldn't pass judgement or offer advice when they haven't a clue what is going on.  But thats another blog entry someday or an entry in my journal.  Anyway about 2 weeks ago the light came on in Ricks head, his eyes opened wide and everything just clicked for him.  Thank God.  He called me and told me he couldn't deal with it anymore and didn't know what to do.  We had planned for Christian to move back in with me over Christmas break but it came a little sooner than that because Christian got suspended from school for threatening another child and Rick lost it.  Needless to say Christian is now here with me.  In the last 2 days I have managed to get Christian set up with a new therapist, pediatrician, dentist, school and into some intramural sports.  Hopefully with Rick on my side now we can make some progress with Christians "special needs" and move on with our lives.  Wish me luck. 

 

Have a good one!!

 

Jennie